1).
The Quran:
All religions and all societies have given parents an honourable status.
From a purely material viewpoint, we find ourselves indebted to our parents,
particularly our mother. She not only nourished us in her womb, but went
through pain and suffering. She loved us even before we were born. She toiled
when we were totally helpless infants. She spent sleepless nights caring for
us. Our parents as a team provided for all our needs: physical, educational,
psychological, and in many instances, religious, moral, and spiritual.
Our indebtedness to our parents is so immense that it is not possible to
repay it fully. In lieu of this, it becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents.
The position of parents, and the mutual obligations and responsibilities, have
been addressed in Islam in great detail. The Qur'anic commandments, as well as
the sayings of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) guide us in this matter. The parent-child
code of behavior in Islam is unique, since rules were laid down by divine
command.
References to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy
Qur'an. There are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) on this
subject. I will first quote some of the Qur'anic verses here:
"And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents. In
travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in two years was his weaning.
Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final goal." (Quran
31:14)
According to the above verse, gratitude to God and to parents go hand in
hand. Gratitude to God is incomplete without showing gratitude to one's
parents. Since being grateful to God is a form of ibadah (worship) which earns
heavenly rewards, it can therefore be said that being grateful to one's parents
also earns heavenly rewards.
"Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be
kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to
them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor.
And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, "my
Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood." (Quran
17: 23-24)
"We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his
mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth." (Quran
46:15)
Thus, God has enjoined on us to show kindness, respect, and humility to
our parents. We are commanded to do this, even though they may have injured us.
The only exception to the above command is made in the following verse:
"We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; but if they
strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no
knowledge, obey them not." (Quran
29:8)
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2).
The Quran:
1. "We
have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him,
and in pain did she give him birth" (46:15).
2. "Thy
Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents.
Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word
of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of
kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! bestow on them
Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood' "(17:23-24).
3. "We
have enjoined on man and woman kindness to parents; but if they (either of
them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no
knowledge, obey them not'" (29:8).
4. "We
have enjoined on man and woman (to be good) to his/her parents; show gratitude
to Me and to thy parents; to Me is (thy final) Goal. If they (parents) strive
to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge,
obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and
consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love)"
(31:14-15).
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3).
The Quran:
The status of parents in Islam is very high. We as a Muslim should give
respect and love to our parents. Parents are to be treated well at all times
this is a virtuous kind of act in the sight of Almighty Allah. Parents and
children in Islam are bonded together by mutual obligations. Allah Almighty
says in Holy Quran: “…No mother should be harmed through
her child and no father through his child…” (Quran 2: 233). From the
above-mentioned verse of Holy Quran, we can conclude that Quran has made it
obligatory for the child to treat his parents with all grace and mercy.
It is obligatory for us (Muslims) to
show the unconditional kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents. Just
like it is beyond our means to fulfill the rights of Allah (SWT) and to thank
Him for all His rewards in their integrity, similarly, we can never thank our
parents adequately for their efforts which they have done for us. The only
thing that we can do is to acknowledge our shortcomings and submit ourselves,
in obedience and loyalty, before our parents. In Holy Quran, Allah Almighty
says: “And We have enjoined on man (to be
good) to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in
two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is
thy final goal.” (Quran, 31:14)
Every Muslim must show kindness and mercy to his parents throughout
their lives. It is obligatory on children to show love, respect, and
gratitude to their parents. Always speaks to parents gently and respectfully.
Our Parents as a team provided for all our needs: Physical, Educational,
Psychological, and in many instances, Religious, Moral, and Spiritual. It
becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost Kindness, Respect, and Obedience
to our Parents.
Rights
of Parents according to Quran and Sunnah:
The Quranic commandments and the sayings of Prophet Muhammad (SAW) guide
us in this matter of respecting parents with love, respect, and kindness.
Allah mentions that human beings must
recognize their parents and that this is second only to the recognition of
Allah Himself. In Holy Quran Allah Almighty beautifully explained: “And
your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good
treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not
to them [so much as] ‘uff’ [i.e., an expression of irritation or disapproval]
and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the
wing of humility out of mercy and say: ‘My Lord! Have mercy upon them as they
brought me up [when I was] small.'” (Quran 17:23-24)
In Holy Quran respect of parents is
mentioned about eleven times, Allah Almighty has mentioned in every instance to
recognize and to appreciate love and care that your parents gave to you.
Regarding this Allah says in Holy Quran: “And
We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents…” (Quran 29:8
& 46:15)
The children must pray for parents
saying, as Allah Almighty teaches us in the verse:”…My
Lord and Sustainer! Be kind and have mercy on them as they cherished, nurtured
and sustained me in childhood.” (Quran 17:24). From this verse,
we came to know that must continue praying for parents even after they die.
Such prayer will be regarded as a continuous charity as the Prophet (SAW), told
us. As being grateful to Allah Almighty is a form of worship which earns divine
rewards, it can, therefore, be said that being grateful to one’s parents also
earns divine rewards.
There are some traditions of Prophet Muhammad (SAW) about treatment with
parents in the best way are mentioned below:
o If someone is rude
and disrespectful towards his parents, hurt them by saying insulting remarks or
cause them grief or misery in any manner, then he shall find his place in Hell.
Once someone asked the Holy Prophet (SAW): “What
right does parents have over their children?” He answered: “They are your
heaven and hell.” (Ibn Majah)
.
o Our duties to our
parents extend even after their death. One of the best ways to honor our
parents when they are gone is by being kind to their friends. Holy Prophet
(SAW) said about it: “The best act of righteousness is that a
man should maintain good relations with his father’s loved ones.” (Sahih Muslim)
o In another Hadith
Holy Prophet (SAW) said: “No child can compensate his father
unless he finds him as a slave, buys him, and sets him free.” (Sahih Muslim)
o The
Prophet (SAW) placed kindness and respect towards parents just after
the prayer offered on time as the prayer is the base of Islam. ‘Abdullah
Ibn Masood, said: “I asked the Prophet (SAW) which deed is most liked
by Allah. He said: ‘Prayer offered on time.’I asked him: ‘Then what?
He (SAW) said: ‘Kindness and respect towards parents.’…” (Al-Bukhari)
Let us pray to Allah (SWT) that we do our best to respect our parents,
honor them, be kind to them, and please them so that we may gain the love of
Allah Almighty. May Allah (SWT) grant us the Divine success that we may come be
regarded amongst those who have been good towards their parents. May also
Almighty Allah guide us to be respectful, loving and kind to our parents and so
that we always stay humble and respectful regardless of the power, wealth,
position and influence we may possess. Ameen!
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4).
The Quran :
You will not fully recognize the tremendous sacrifices of your parents
until you become a parent yourself!
Unfortunately, the limitless giving, the loving care and the real
concern that parents offer with pleasure to their children are easily ignored
nowadays. In the fast-pace, extremely materialistic life we live, many precious
values are easily forgotten. Dutifulness to parents is reduced to some presents
and nice cards on certain days and occasions.
Compare this to the Islamic concept of dutifulness that extends this
value even after parents pass away. Discover more comprehensive meanings and
aspects of dutifulness to parents in the following collection of the Qur’an
verses and the Prophet’s hadiths.
1. A Duty Second to Tawhid
{And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to
parents, good treatment.} (Al-Israa’ 17:23)
2. Don’t Offend Your Parents
{Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say
not to them [so much as], “Fie,” and do not repel them but speak to them a
noble word.} (Al-Israa’ 17:23)
3. Remember their Favors
{And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My
Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.”}
(Al-Israa’ 17:24)
4. Kindness to Non-Muslim Parents
{But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which
you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with
appropriate kindness} (Luqman 31:15)
5.
Special Position for Mothers
Abu Hurairah reported that a man came to the Messenger (peace be upon
him) and asked:
‘O Messenger of God, who is the person who has the greatest right on me
with regards to kindness and attention?’
The Prophet replied, ‘Your mother.’
– ‘Then who?’
– ‘Your mother.’
– ‘Then who?’
– ‘Your mother.’
– ‘Then who?’
-‘Your father.’
6. Dutifulness to Parents Equals Jihad
`Abdullah bin `Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that a man
came to the Messenger of Allah asking his permission to go out for Jihad. The
Messenger of Allah asked him, “Are your parents alive?” He
replied, ‘Yes.’ The Messenger of Allah then said to him, “Then do Jihad through serving and caring for them”
(Muslim)
7. Dutifulness After They Pass Away
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet
said:
“When
a person dies, his actions come to an end, except in one of three ways: a
continuing act of charity, (sadaqah), a useful contribution to knowledge, or a
righteous child who prays for him .”(Muslim)
8. Do Not Be a Loser!
Abu Hurairah quoted the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as
saying: “He is doomed, he is doomed, he is doomed.”
Someone said, “Who, O Messenger of Allah?”
He answered,
“The
person whose parents, one or both of them, reach old age during his lifetime
but he does not enter Paradise.”(Muslim)
9. Disobedience to Parents: A Major
Sin
Abu Bakra (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet
(peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Should I not inform you about
the gravest of the major sins?”
They replied, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah.”
The Prophet said: “Associating anyone with Allah
and being undutiful to parents.” (Al-Bukhari)
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5).
The Hadith:
1. The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and
blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad,
Nasai).
2. A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger
of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The
Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then
your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your
mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your father.
(Bukhari, Muslim).
3. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with
Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O
Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have
died? And Rasulullah said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His
Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect
their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).
4. Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of
Allah said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey
one's parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim).
5. It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr that during
the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from
Makkah. Asma informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed
help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim).
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6).
The
Hadith:
Narrated Abu Umamah: A
man said, “Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) what rights can parents
demand from their children?” He replied, “They are your Paradise and your
Hell.”
Ibn Majah transmitted it.
Ibn Majah transmitted it.
Al-Tirmidhi – Hadith 1277
Narrated
Aisha: (the wife of the Prophet) when Allah’s Apostle was ordered to give
option to his wives, he started with me, saying, “I am going to mention to you
something, but you shall not hasten (to give your reply) unless you consult
your parents.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) knew that my parents would not
order me to leave him. Then he said, “Allah says: ‘O Prophet (Muhammad)! Say to
your wives: If you desire the life of this world and its glitter…a great
reward.” (33.28-29) I said, “Then why I consult my parents? Verily, I seek
Allah, His Apostle and the Home of the Hereafter.” Then all the other wives of
the Prophet (peace be upon him) did the same as I did.
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 60 Hadith 309
Narrated
Asma bint Abu Bakr: My mother came to me during the lifetime of Allah’s Apostle
and she was a pagan. I said to Allah’s Apostle (seeking his verdict), “My
mother has come to me and she desires to receive a reward from me, shall I keep
good relations with her?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Yes, keep good
relation with her.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 47 Hadith 789
Narrated
Al Walid bin Aizar: I heard AbiAmr ‘Ash-Shaibani saying, “The owner of this
house,” (he pointed to ‘Abdullah’s house) said, ‘I asked the Prophet, ‘Which
deed is loved most by Allah?’ He replied, ‘To offer prayers at their early
(very first) stated times.’ ‘Abdullah asked, ‘What is the next (in goodness)?’
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, ‘To be good and dutiful to one’s
parents.’ ‘Abdullah asked, ‘What is the next (in goodness)?’ The Prophet (peace
be upon him) said, ‘To participate in Jihad for Allah’s Cause.’ ‘Abdullah
added, ‘The Prophet (peace be upon him) narrated to me these three things, and
if I had asked more, he would have told me more.’ ”
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 73 Hadith 1
Narrated
Mu’awiyah ibn Hayadah: I said: Apostle of Allah! To whom should I show
kindness? He replied: Your mother, next your mother, next your mother, and then
comes your father, and then your relatives in order of relationship. The
Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) said: If a man asks his slave whom he
freed for giving him property which is surplus with him and he refuses to give
it to him, the surplus property which he refused to give will be called on the
Day of resurrection as a large bald snake.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood – Book 41 Hadith 5120
Narrated
Abu Darda: A man came to him and said: I have a wife and my mother asks me to
divorce her. AbudDarda’ said to him that he had heard the Prophet (peace be
upon him) saying: A father is one of the strongest doors of Paradise, If you
wish you may pull it down, or if you wish you may protect it.
Al-Tirmidhi- Hadith 127
Narrated
Al Mughira: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Allah has forbidden you (1)
to be undutiful to your mothers (2) to withhold (what you should give) or (3)
demand (what you do not deserve), and (4) to bury your daughters alive. And
Allah has disliked that (A) you talk too much about others ( B), ask too many
questions (in religion), or (C) waste your property.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 73 Hadith 6
Narrated
Abdullah bin Amr: Allah’s Apostle said. “It is one of the greatest sins that a
man should curse his parents.” It was asked (by the people), “O Allah’s
Apostle! How does a man curse his parents?” The Prophet (peace be upon him)
said, “The man abuses the father of another man and the latter abuses the
father of the former and abuses his mother.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 73 Hadith 4
Narrated
Ibn Abbas: (In the Pre-Islamic Period) the children used to inherit all the
property but the parents used to inherit only through a will. So Allah
cancelled that which He liked to cancel and decreed that the share of a son was
to be twice the share of a daughter, and for the parents one-sixth for each one
of them, or one third, and for the wife one-eighth or one-fourth, and for the
husband one-half, or one-fourth.
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 60 Hadith 102
Narrated
Ibn Masud: A man asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) “What deeds are the
best?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: (1) To perform the (daily
compulsory) prayers at their (early) stated fixed times, (2) To be good and
dutiful to one’s own parents. (3) and to participate in Jihad in Allah’s
Cause.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 93 Hadith 625
Narrated
Abdullah bin Amr: A man said to the Prophet, “Shall I participate in Jihad?”
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Are your parents living?” The man said,
“Yes.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Do Jihad for their benefit.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 73 Hadith 3
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 73 Hadith 3
Narrated
Abdullah: I asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) “Which deed is the dearest to
Allah?” He replied, “To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times.” I
asked, “What is the next (in goodness)?” He replied, “To be good and dutiful to
your parents.” I again asked, “What is the next (in goodness)?” He replied, “To
participate in Jihad (religious fighting) in Allah’s cause.” ‘Abdullah added,
“I asked only that much and if I had asked more, the Prophet (peace be upon
him) would have told me more.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 10 Hadith 505
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 10 Hadith 505
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Umar: When we were with the Prophet (peace be upon him) on one of
his expeditions he came upon some people and asked who they were, to which they
replied that they were Muslims. A woman who had a son of hers with her was
kindling a fire under her pot, and when the heat increased she moved him away.
She then went to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and asked, “You for whom I
would give my father and mother as ransom, tell me if Allah is not the Most
Merciful of those who are merciful.” He replied that He certainly was. She
asked, “Is Allah not More Merciful to His servants than a mother to her child?”
and when he assured her that He certainly was, she replied that a mother does
not cast her child into the fire. Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) then
bowed his head and wept, and afterwards raised it, looked at her and said,
“Allah punishes only those of His servants who act audaciously towards Him and
refuse to say that there is no god but Allah.”
IbnMajah transmitted it.
Al-Tirmidhi – Hadith 756
IbnMajah transmitted it.
Al-Tirmidhi – Hadith 756
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Amribn al-‘As: A man came to the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon
him) and said: I came to you to take the oath of allegiance to you on
emigration, and I left my parents weeping. He (the Prophet) said: Return to
them and make them laugh as you made them weep.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood – Book 14 Hadith 2522
Sunan of Abu-Dawood – Book 14 Hadith 2522
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7).
The Hadith:
1. The Greatest Obligatory Act
The Commander of the Faithful (peace be upon him)
has said: “Goodness towards (one’s) parents is the greatest obligatory act.”
Mizanul Hikmah,
Volume 10, Page 709
2. The Best of Deeds
Imam as-Sadiq (peace be upon him) has said: “The
best deeds are: Salat in its stipulated hour, goodness towards parents and
Jihad in the way of Allah.”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 85
3. Attachment to Parents
[A person once approached the Messenger of Allah
(peace be upon him and his family) and said: “I have an old father and mother,
who due to their attachment towards me, are not keen for me to go to Jihad.”]
[Hearing this], the Noble Prophet (peace be upon
him and his family) said: “(If such is the case then) Stay with your parents
for, by the One in whose control lies my soul, their attachment of one
day and one night to you is better than one year of Jihad.”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 82
4. The Most Beloved Deed
[Ibne `Abbas states:] “I questioned the Messenger
of Allah (peace be upon him and his family): Which deed is the most beloved in
the eyes of Allah, the Mighty, the Glorious?” He (peace be upon him and
his family) replied: “(Offering) prayers at their stipulated times.” I then
asked: “Which is the next most beloved deed?” He (peace be upon him and his
family) answered: “Goodness towards (one’s) parents.” I asked him again:
“After this which is the most beloved act?” He (peace be upon him and his
family) said: “Jihad in the way of Allah.”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 70
5. Looking at Parents
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his
family) said: “Every righteous child who casts a look of mercy and affection
upon his parents shall be granted, for every look of his, rewards equivalent to
that of an accepted Hajj.” Those around the Prophet questioned: “O’
Prophet of Allah! Even if he were to look at them a hundred times a
day?” The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his family) replied:
“Indeed! Allah is the Greatest and Most Kind.”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 73
6. The Great Rank of Parents
Imam al-Ridha
(peace be upon him) has said: “Allah, the Mighty, the Glorious, has commanded
three things with which he has associated three other things. He associated
payment of zakat along with prayers such that one who offers prayers, but
desists from offering zakat, his prayers are rejected. He associated gratitude
to Him with gratitude towards parents such that one who is grateful to Allah,
but ungrateful to his parents, will be deemed as ungrateful to Allah. He
associated righteousness with bonds of kinship such that one who is righteous,
but has severed relations with his kin, will be deemed as not being righteous.”
Biharul Anwar, Volume 74, Page 77
Biharul Anwar, Volume 74, Page 77
7. Kindness to Parents
Imam as-Sadiq (peace be upon him) has said:
“Goodness towards the parents is an indication of a person’s excellent
cognizance of Allah. This is because there is no worship that can take a
person towards the happiness of Allah faster than exhibiting respect towards
his Muslim parents for the sake of Allah.”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, pg.77
8. Obedience Towards One’s Parents
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his
family) said: “One, who follows the orders of Allah with regards to obeying
parents, shall have two doors of Paradise opened up for him. And if there
happens to be only one parent, one door of Paradise shall open up for him.”
Kanzul `Ummal,
Volume 16, Page 67
9. The Most Exalted Station
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his
family) has stated: “One who is obedient towards his parents and his Lord shall
be accommodated in the most exalted of places on the Day of Judgment.”
Kanzul `Ummal,
Volume 16, Page 467
10. Repayment Of Debts
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his
family) has said: “One who performs Hajj on behalf of his parents and repays
their debts shall be raised by Allah on the Day of Judgement amongst the
righteous ones.”
Kanzul `Ummal,
Volume 16, Page 468
11. Pleasing Parents
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his
family) said: “One who pleases his parents has verily pleased Allah, and one
who has angered his parents has verily angered Allah.”
Kanzul `Ummal,
Volume 16, Page 470
12. Sheltered by the ‘Arsh (Throne) of Allah
Imam as-Sadiq (peace be upon him) related: “Once
when Prophet Musa (peace be upon him) was engaged in a conversation with his
Lord, The Mighty, The Glorious, he observed a person beneath the `Arsh (Throne)
of Allah, whereupon he (peace be upon him) asked: O’ My Lord! Who
is this person, who is being sheltered by Your `Arsh?” Allah replied:
“This person had been kind and good towards his parents and never indulged in
slandering (them).”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 65
13. Travel and be Good!
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his
family) said: “Travel even for two years to do good to your parents.
Journey (even) for one year to establish bonds of kinship (with your
relatives).”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 83
14. Increase in Life and Livelihood
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his
family) said: “One who desires a long life and an increase in livelihood should
exhibit goodness towards his parents and establish bonds of kinship (with his
relatives).”
Kanzul `Ummal, Volume
16, Page 475
15. Benefits of Kindness to Parents
[Hanan Ibn Sudair narrates: “We were in the
presence of Imam as-Sadiq (peace be upon him) and amidst us was Muyassir.
During the discussion, the topic of silah rahim (establishing bonds of kinship
with one’s relatives) came to the fore, whereupon] the Imam (peace be upon
him), [addressing Muyassir], said: ‘O’ Muyassir! On several occasions,
your end had drawn near, but on each occasion, Allah delayed your death due to
your acts of silah rahim with your relatives. If you desire to have your
life-span increased, exhibit goodness and kindness towards your parents.’”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 84
16. First and Foremost: be Good to your Mother
Imam as-Sadiq (peace be upon him) relates that once
a person approached the Noble Prophet (peace be upon him and his family) and
asked: “O’ Prophet of Allah! Towards whom should I exhibit goodness and
kindness?” The Noble Prophet replied: “Towards your mother.” The
man then asked: “And after that towards whom?” The Noble Prophet again
said: “Your Mother.” He asked again: “And then?” Once again, he
replied: “Your mother.” For the fourth time the man asked: “And
then?” This time he said: “(Then towards) Your father.”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 49
17. As You Sow so Shall You Reap!
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his
family) has said: “Be good towards your parents and your children will be good
towards you. (And) Look upon the womenfolk of others with purity (in
conduct and intention) and your womenfolk will be looked upon with purity.”
Kanzul `Ummal,
Volume 16, Page 466
18. The Rights of the Father
Imam ar-Ridha (peace be upon him) narrates that a
person once asked the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his family):
“What are the rights of the father upon the son?” The Noble Prophet
replied: “He should not call his father by name, he should not walk ahead of
him, he should not sit until his father has seated himself and he should not do
such acts as a result of which people abuse his father.”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 45
19. Worship in Looking
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his
family) has said: “The look of a child towards his parents out of love for them
is an act of worship.”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 80
20. Meaning of Good Conduct
Abu Wallad al-Hannat narrates that he once asked
Imam as-Sadiq (peace be upon him) about the meaning of the words of Allah (in
the Qur’an): (And be good to parents.”)1
The Imam (peace be upon him) replied: “Being good
to them means to accompany them in a good manner and never to wait for them to
ask you for what they need.”
Biharul Anwar,
Volume 74, Page 79
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