Totals: 94
Monday: 1-13
Tuesday : 13-26
Wednesday: 26-39
Thursday: 39-52
Friday: 52-65
Saturday: 65-78
Sunday:65-94
1. I should not get annoyed or distracted.
2. I should not panic.
3. I should talk less and listen more.
4. I should not joke outside.
5. I always try to speak
slowly and clearly. I need to put in my head and make sure I need to try
my best. I should be patience pray to Allah those Shifa Dua. Any
difficulty or disease is examination from Allah SWT, Allah wants to hear
your voice for asking him help.
6. I should not be or never be panic at all, or rushing or pull or
push anyone when walking. Also do not walk in front of the any person.
Follow your own lane while walking with anyone.
7. I should explain
clearly and slowly if I want to explain anything, do not touch or pull
or push. Or do not snatch anything without permission.
8. I should recite duas anytime and try to speak or explain very clearly and very slowly.
9. I should share
everything with mum and dad, if I have any questions about anything
which I don’t know. There is nothing shame to ask any questions and
advice to my parents. No one give honest advice in this worlds other
than parents. Also No one cares in this world more than my parents.
10. Honest is the best
policy. Not listing to naughty children and, not get annoyed &
distracted is the best policy and it is the only solution.
11. I should always phone
or text Mum and Dad after finished my school. Even if I am on my way on
the road or no the bus, just text or phone and say I am on my way. I am
on the bus stop or on the bus now.
12. I should always my take care my own health and safety outside. I am only responsible my own safety at outside.
13. I should never be panic, always come down in any situations.
14. I should not angry with any boys at school, and never ever swear or fight. I will be completely wrong.
15. I should not think or suspect wrongly that they are picking me up. I am angry now. And I need to fight opposite with them.
16. I should copy and
paste all information’s, if anything happened at school or outside
immediately to my parents, I Never hide or keep in inside of my mind. I
should know that, it’s very harmful. If I tell to my parents than I will
get good advice and my mind will fresh. I know that only closest person
in this world is my parents. I never think I am a big boy, how do I
tell me parents, It is wrong. So I always feel free to express
everything to your parents and get honest advice and help and received
due from them.
17. I should not listen
or give attention to the Homophobic language at all, and get annoyed and
destructed at all. But I must reported to the parents and the teachers
so that they can politely explain or request them to stop. It should be
done mutually, every school has policy set up for stop and harassment
against child etc. No one should not destroy your education Environment
or peace or controlling you or bothering you.
18. I never think that,
boys are telling me to dumb, and try to swear or fight with them. It’s
wrong thinking. If anything coming up in your mind it should be right
prediction.
19. I should be explain everything to my parent’s instead of friends. Parents are my friends and only close person.
20.I should choose
friends who is following character’s: religious, fear of Allah, not
spy, not harm, not swear, not lie, very gentle, help each other about
study, not join in gang group or gang fighting or fighting with each
other, Good friend should Come home, exchange home phone number, friend
parents should know each other.
21. I should never be
involved with any fighting at any time is good idea. They could be
member of gang, taking drugs, carrying weapons etc. there is lots of bed
boys or bed people out there.
22. I should not be never alone at the wrong place at wrong time.
23. I should not think
any time that children is my enemy. I should not react, e.g.: they have
remote control of myself. if they press the button I should get annoyed
or distracted or react with them. Example: If they say jump, I will
jump. So do not get distracted with the boys, It is better close your
ear and concentrate on your lessons, I should be your own role model.
24. Thought – attitude –
word- action- habit – character – destiny. So control yourself from
beginning which is thought. Self-control and self-discipline is the kay
of the success of the life.
25. I never go the play
football with boys after school without parents’ permission. I have
still remember what happened to last time. I lost my medal. Intelligent
people learn from lesson without repeating. There is three kinds of
people: (a) Foolish people do mistake again and again, never learn. (b)
Normal people always learn from mistake, do not repeat again, everything
remember. (c) Smart people never do mistake, when hear from other
people mouth about any mistake, they get careful and never involve of
any mistake.
26. I should not harm myself after angry. Punch or kick on the wall
and injury myself. It is bed habit. I should not do those again.
27. I should always
respect my parents, always be polite, kind, never argue or challenge
with them. Listen to Allah’s command. Never do any act with them which
hart them, and never make with them say even WOU sound with my behaviour
or any act.
28. I should be always
listen positively if anyone talk to me, It’s a professional and life
time using skills ( LTUS). It is part of my communication skills and
learning or developing myself.
29. If Mum or dad talk to
me just advising something just general talk, I should listen carefully
instead of getting angry or frustrated. They are talking about rules
which is good for any child. I should listen. They are not telling me I
did wrong etc. It’s just rules, some of them might be applicable with
me.
30. When I am at studying
after long day, if I find hard to concentrate. That time, change to the
different subject, if I still find hard to concentrate means, I need
rest. Reasons: my BRAIN is tired. It is the only solutions and I should
not TALK, MORN or or ARGUE or give headuck to my parents. Have a rest it
is the only solution. So it is my LTUS.
31. My dad or Mum wants
to care about myself, If they ask me how was school, was there any
problem, or what have you eaten at school. I should not get angry at
all. Explain them with kind manner. Communicate with them very kindly
and politely. Its Allah SWT command.
32. I am big boy now, I
need brain power and appropriate healthy food, and I should eat very
quickly my full meals at schools, if I am still felling hungry asked for
extra food at school. When comes to home, I should eat Minimum of 2
Sandwich and tea or other thinks after the sandwich. Make sure I am not
feeling hungry because I need to go for Independent study. It’s very
important and LTUS. Than go to the Independent study by following with
mobile phone timer and try to finish all my daily independent study
subjects. If I have homework I should check it first. Later I should not
over eat my dinner, its make me sick. I should follow prophet MSAW
Sunnah, tummy divided by 3 part, 1 part food, 1 part water, 1 part keep
empty for digestion. I know that overeating is a brain drainer.
33. I am now big boys, I
should always be aware of fowling things from now on: Drug, Smoke,
Alcohol, and other harem things and haram relationship. If anyone
involve I should not, learn to say those words, sorry my parents will
kill me. It is not good for the health. I know my Fufus son has past
away.
34. I should not play
game and waste time when I am studying. Self-control and self-discipline
is the key of the succeed on my life. No one will tell me what to do,
when I will grow up. It’s my (life time practice skills) LTPS. So I
should learn and practice from now with very discipline. I know that
honest and good education comes or always learn from home and from
everyone’s parents.
35. I should be very
careful about online safety, social media, should not join at all, I
know that, it is not good for the students like me at all, on the social
media, some bed peoples who are hiding their identity and cheating and
laying etc. its only used when became mature peoples, I am not a mature
man, it’s only good for networking, marketing, business adverting and
other advantage people used it.
36. I should be careful
about lunch time, when standing on the line, never follow crowed or
other naughty bed boys, not push or joke etc. I also should not think
that children is your enemy, and I should not start fighting, I am not
allowed to fight at school. I will be 100% wrong if I start fighting.
37. I should not be angry
when my younger brother ( Sweet baby brother) touch me accidently,
never be angry, report to the parents. He should be discipline by Mum
and Dad..
38. When I am guest house
always should be nice and good character. If anyone comes to our home
and show bed character, how do you think? Are they good or bed. So
always 100% when any guest house.
39. When my dad talk, he
talk about rules, I should listen, He is not telling me I am wrong etc. I
should listen and used for my life.
40. I am not allowed to
make or choose any friends who is not a Muslim. Its Islamic rules. So
learn it and make understand to the others if you can.
41.I should not play game
at school or outside, should not exchange mobile number, should not
install any game on the mobile phone, keep internet off, leave Wi-Fi on,
my Phone is only with communicate with my parents, self-discipline is
the key success of the life.
42. I should be follow 3ps, be polite, be positive, and be professional.
43.I should listen to
Allah swt command about parents, be kind, speak nicely, always use kind
manner, be helpful with them, care if them whatever I can, always
listen, do not even let make with their mind any sort of hurt so that
they can make or say WOU sound, also I should not do following sinful
act with my parents, I should tell them to make dua for me or expect due
from them, Parents dua is most important for me. Allah always listen to
parents Dua. I should also make dua for them, because Allah SWT accept
child duas for their parents.
44. I should not give
money to anyone, if anyone asked, its means they are not good person,
they are Doji (means Cheat character person) person or it is a red light
for me. They will take money and never rerun it back. Just say my hand
is empty, even if you have money on my pocket or bank account. Money
always stays on pocket or bank. Learn how to say those, sorry my hand is
empty, sorry I can’t help. Please don’t mind.
45. I never be trying to helping any friends about fighting or gang
fighting. I Never think or became a hero by going to helping about
friends on fighting. I never go at all. Its my parents advice. It is
happened to my own family, someone ( Tahir Bhai wife brother ) has died
after went to helping to the friend about fighting, he went to help to
friends without telling parents.
46.I should be my own role model, don’t need to follow any friends,
only follow someone older or scholars. My parents character and other
Muslim schoolers Character. Also following Allah 99 commands and Prophet
Mohammed SAWS character and Sunnah.
47. I am only allowed to defence myself when someone attacking me and for saving my life.
48.I should be always socialize with everyone, communicate very
well, human is a social being, social skills is life time using skills,
I will learn from the website about those skills & school extra
class.
49. I know that discipline is the key of the success for the life, I
should not broke the rules, I should be very discipline, and
professional never broke the rules.
50. When I come home, If I am clean, Pray first, then turn on the
shower fan, I should not use too hot water, it is not good for skin,
After shower put on oil on the body and hair, than eat lots of Fibre.
E,g: Minimum of 2 pieces of brown bread, maximum of 3 or 4 pieces than
tea or anything else, than finished all homework first, then start my
independent study myself with timely 30 to 45 mins or 1h each subject,
mobile phone use as an alarm clock.
51.I know that, It is my golden time, I should be use time
intelligently, It is now my time to study and hard work, time never
comes back, I should be focus on alarm clock when study and keep on
following rules, do not play game when studying, get a good target for
the Gcses, Revision I the key, If I can’t once try 100 times, It
scientist theory.
52.I should eat before I start my study, when I am on the table
focus on independent study, revise or study intensively with alarm
clock.
53.I should not even mistakenly do any punching fight or joke in
the school, It is dangerous and against my safety, it is not allowed in
school, Learn how to say no word, and use those words and say no to
your class mates, example: I will be in a big problem, My parents will
kill me, they saw last time punch sign on my hand, I was on trouble,
Good people never repeat mistake and always learn from it.
54.I should be target taking my own responsibility. E,g: Set target
for good goals, Get a goal for the Top grades on my exams and what I
need to achieve, don’t expect parents or teacher will remind you or tell
you for study or independent work etc, Every Successful people they
had a good target and works towards for it by study independently.
55. When need to eat something or need to do something, be very
specific and decide very quickly. Imagine I am at the restaurant or
outside need to order something, I need to decide quickly also wat your
dinner quickly without delay be smart, don’t waste time.
56.I should help my parents by doing my own job, e.g.: wake up,
pickup, eat quickly, be ready quickly. It is very rewarding when help to
parents.
57.I should not waste
time when comes to home, turn on the fan, after shower put on oil, do
all missing prayer, eat lots of fibre e.g.: eat 2/3 sand witch, Milk,
banana tea etc. Eat very quickly. Go to the table or your favourite
place, Do homework first than revised independent work with the mobile
phone, Mobile phone use as a clock. Should not kill time at all.
58. I should not keep anything inside if anything happen to me
normally or accidently at school or outside. It is very harmful. If I
express than my mind will be fresh & light, and I will get the
honest advice or help from my parents instead of suffering myself. My
all problem will be resolved. So I will help myself by saying all issues
to my parents and get help from my parents.
59. I should always be very smart about taking right decision on
right time, when eating, I should be very tidy and clean and use very
good manner.
60. I should not look back or remember any past issues and should
not morn about it, what has happened to me in the past, I should forget
it, past is past, I should not talk any issues about past and I should
not waste my time, Intelligent and scholars are said, don’t think or
digging about the past or focus on present and planning the future.
60. I shouldn't be get frustrated or become un patience and make woo sounds and bothering parents.
62. I should write my homework at planner immediately at school, so
that I don’t forget it, after I came home and when I sit down for the
Independent study, I should check my homework first and do all
homework, I should not left any homework for the last moment. Also I
always try to do my homework in my own independently, I am a big boy, I
should practice to study independently because I need to do my GCSEs
exams, I should be focus on what I am doing.
63. I should make sure that my mind in the right place, when anyone
talking or communicating with me. If anyone talk with me, I should
concentrate. I should give attention when my parents or anyone talk to
me.
64. I should be independent myself and study independently without
reminding my parents. I am big boy now. I should take of my
responsibility myself.
65. I should be read a lot when I get little bit of gap and on my
spare time, when reading, its opens the brain and increase
understanding.
66. I should focus very well on when I am studying, I will eat a
lots of fibre before starting study, I will always focus on intensive
study. I shouldn’t go to the other room frequently unnecessarily when
studying. I shouldn’t’ go to the other room and eat something and
chatting and wasting my important study time.
67. I should teach my
younger brother good manners and good characters. He should respect me. I
should be affectionate with him. I shouldn't touch him, or fight with
him or try to make fight with him etc. If he does wrong I Should be
forgive him and tell to my parents.
68. When I am outside specially guest house, I should be behave
100% well. I should use good very manner. Should not make any fight or
argue with Shafaat. Imagine if two child comes to our home and do
fighting or use bed manner. How do we think? Think about it.
69. I should make my own goal according to Harvard University
survey students, According to the research, only 3% of MBA students they
had their written goal. After 10 years they were earning 10 times more
as the other combined. 13% of the Harvard University survey students had
no written goal. 84% had no specific goals.
70. I should study very well for the coming two years. I should do intensive study. I shouldn't expect free time.
71. I should go with the flow. Take everything easy. Do study well.
It is golden time. I know study is my work. I should understand that,
the older I became the more responsibility will
come.
72. I should correct my behaviour and personality. I should not get
affected with my bed habit or bed behaviour or bed personality with
everyone in my family. I shouldn't let affected to my younger brother.
He became very sad and affected with my behaviour something. I should be
understand myself and work on this weakness. I should be become very
wise and smart all the times.
73. I should use keep everything super simple or keep everything simple stupid (kess) formula.
74. I should take note for home work when I am on the class.
Write-down homework immediately. If I am forget ask to the teacher.
Write-down all deadline of the homework. I should not get detention. It
is very bad habit.
75. I should work on my weaknesses. I should always stay on the
right path. Never do any sinful act. Listen Allah Subhanahu wa Taala 99
commands. Listen and follow sheikh Numan Ali advice. I should not be
angry or make my face angry with my parents at all. Not talking angrily.
Not debate. Not become arrogance. I should not get angry or after
getting angry harm myself and touch on or push any objects. Etc.
76. When angry always recite dua to Allah for help. Listen Numan
Ali advice, when angry forgive for getting reward from Allah.Recite dua
auugoo billah ..... rajim dua. If stand up than Sit down and, drink
water etc.
77. I should not look at my past at all. Past is past. Past has
gone. don’t say why I couldn't do it and continue repeat and get
frustrated or morn about it. Scholar says: focus on present and plan
ahead for good future. It's very important.
78. I should focus on how to fix or improve my wrong thinking and
my psychology. I should be always positive thinking. Think positive all
the times.
79. I should not use those bed languages. What is it? It's rude.
You are now big boy. We are expecting good and well understanding
behaviour. Learn all good personality from now and practice it. It is
life time using skills (LTUS). Take responsibility and learn and
practice from now on. Thought attitude word action habit character and
destiny, think about it.
80. I should understand that, this is my home. I should make very
peaceful home. From now on, I should always listen - understand - learn -
act - practice - get rewards.
81. I always trust my parents. I should listen get advice and ask
for any questions and their opinions, about what I don't know and I need
to learn .When parents say anything wrong. I should listen and accept
it positively. And practice it. It is my LTPS or LTUS. Life time
practice/ using skills.
82. When I think am
tired. I should give my brain to the rest. It is very important. I
shouldn't talk at all. I should go to the other room and take rest. It
is the only solution. I normally annoyed to my parents. when I am tired.
It is a very sinful act. If I want to hear how or how much I annoyed to
my parents. Then I or they can record for me so that I can listen.
Tips:
When tired don't talk, don't annoyed.
83. I never join to the
social media Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and others those
application now. It is not suitable younger child like me .It’s for
mature and older and professional peoples who using for getting their
advantage or their own benefits. Example: sales, advertising, networking
etc. For younger children like me, it is not good. Young people they
are not mature and they don't have any self-control and self-discipline.
For children it is not good at all, because some peoples are put on the
wrong picture and wrong identify and, they are bulling or lying or
cheating to the immature children’s.
84. I should always recite knowledge dua before starting my study.
I know this theory, practice makes perfect. Means if I do independent
study with very attention. I can learn anything. I sould know that the
secret of learning or doing very good result is, if I study
independently revised and practice.There is nothing miracles for good
result or passing the exams. Scholers or scientist always say this
theory that, If I cant onece try 100 times. I Never say it is impossible
or accept defeat. Everything is possible only if I practice. Also I
should find out what is my weaknesses or strength. I should work on my
weakness. I shouldn't say this word that, I can't do it. Also scholars
are always says, work on your weaknesses and become succed. I should
work on where is my weakness. on my books, I should Practice and
revised and Memorized my course, and Learn the course very well for
well my exam preparation. Inshallah which will give me confident, and i
will achieved good results inshaallah.
85. When I am studying and revising myself, firstly : I should
understand Logically what I am reading. Everything is logical. Secondly i
should Memorized and remembered the important keywords, what I read
from the paragraph. if I remember the keywords than I can very easily
write any sentences or paragraph on my exams .Thirdly: I should
understand and memorized the summery of the paragraphs. This is the way
I can memorizing my study and preparing my gcses exams very well
inshaallah. I understand that on my gcses exams, I need to write all
questions answers within the limited examination given time. On the
exams i should planning the time according to the questions, so that I
can answer all of the questions within the time. On my exams I should
not take too long time for answering any questions. Otherwise I can't
get answer all questions. On my exams if I can't answers all questions
than how do I expect good marks and results.
Secret of the getting good marks on the exams is trying to answers
all questions.On my exam, i should answer all of the questions whatever I
know from my knowledge. I need to learn all formulas, it is very
important.I should copy all necessary formulas in a separate note book. I
need to Memorized all of formulas by heart. Time is running very fast,
I should prepared from now about my exams and study.
86. I know that time is running very fast, I shouldn't waste my
time unnecessary. I will check my homework first than after homework
start my independent revetion study with mobile alarm clock and revised
all within the time.
87. I am a gcse students. My job is study. I will study
independently. I will not rely on anyone help on study unless very
important. I will revised all of my independent study subjects
everyday. This is my golden time and before Gcses exam.I will not
expect free time. Only 3% students at hurburd university has written
goals and success.
88. Important of times: scholers always says. Whoever used the
time very well. They will be succed. Here is some words about the
importance of time. Time is always running. Time never comes back. Time
is running like water flow. I should use my time very wisely. I
shouldn't never waste my time. This is my golden time. I won't be child
again. Successful people used time wisely and succed. So I should think
and used my time and never waste my time.
89. I should always trust or believe to my parents and their
advice. I should not think about unnecessarily following: I am slim or I
not big or i am weak or why I am not strong as before. etc. It is
absolutely unnecessarily thinking. I
Am absolutely fine. If anything wrong with me, my parents will tell
me or look after me. I can kindly ask them my opinion, e.g: mum how do
I look , am I healthy or looks weak etc. I should not repeating any
words again and again and I shouldn't annoyed them at all.
I always trust on my
parents who looked after me from baby.I should not bother my parents
unnecessarily about my health. I should do regular exercise around 10
mins on the exercise the machine.Also I should eat healthy foods e.g:
fibre,fruit, fish vegetables etc. I should cut down sweet sugary
biscuits cake and other fatty junk food. I shouldn't over eat at all.
It's harming for my brain and health.if i eat those than I will be put
in wait myself, I will be overweight.
Overweight has lots of side effects on the body. It is very difficult or impossible to loose weight after putting the wight.
90. I should be always do
my own work on my study place at peacefully Without distructed. When
Dad comes home. I will not think he Is at home and i never distructed at
all. I will not bothered him. He came from work and tired. I will not
started to morn and bring unnecessary problems.
91. I should teach good caracter or manner to my younger brother. I
souldnt do any joking or run behind him or touch him or heat him or
making arguments or when he is sleeping, I shouldn't distract him, when I
am studying shouldn’t involved with him anything etc. If he does
anything wrong tell to the parents or explain to him nicely.
92. I should immediately take notes on my planner, when I am at
school regarding any of the teacher instructions. E.g: home work, exam
dates, bring notes or books or submit homework etc. I should do it
otherwise I will get detention. Detention is not good.
93. When I am studying I shouldn’t go to the other room again and
again. It's not good habit. It is interruption and wasting my time.
94. I should behave very well at class. No extra talk. Concentrate 100% and listen to the teachers instructions.
🔴Quran text ( Allah SWT commands) regarding parents:
WA bil walidaini ihsana "And be kind to your parents" (Quran 17: 23)
SAHIH INTERNATIONALAnd your Lord has decreed that you not worship
except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them
reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and
do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.
And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that
you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain
old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at
them but address them in terms of honour.” (Quran 17:23)
And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through
mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring
me up when I was small.’” (Quran 17:24)
“And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his
parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and
hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your
parents, unto Me is the final destination.” (Quran 31:14)
Your Lord had decreed, that you worship none save Him, and (that
you show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old
age with you, say not "Fie" unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto
them a gracious word. And lower unto them the wing of submission through
mercy, and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both, as they did care for
me when I was young." [Quran 17:23-24]
"We have enjoined on humankind kindness to parents." [Quran 29:8 and 46:15]
"And (remember) when We made a covenant with the children of
Israel, (saying): worship none save Allah (only), and be good to
parents..."[Quran 2:83]
And serve Allah. Ascribe nothing as partner unto Him. (Show) Kindness unto parents... " [Quran 4:36]
"Say: Come, I will recite unto you that which your Lord has made a
sacred duty for you; that you ascribe nothing as partner unto Him and
that you do good to parents..." [Quran 6:151]
🔴 Prohibited relationships according to Quran:
Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters,
your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your
brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who
nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers, and your
step-daughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom
you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin
upon you. And [also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from
your [own] loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters
simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is
ever Forgiving and Merciful.
Allah prohibited 14 classes of women, 7 due to blood relationship, and 7 for others.
Those because of blood relationship are:
Mothers: every female ancestor for you no matter how high her level
is (note that she might on the side of your father too, for example,
your father's mother).Daughters: every female descendant of you no
matter how low her level is (again, note that she might be on the side
of your son, for example, your son's daughter).Sisters: every female
that share you your father or mather (or both of them).Aunts:
bothSisters of every male ancestor for you (even on the side of your
mother, such as the sister of your mother's father), andSisters of every
female ancestor for you (even on the side of your father, such as the
sister of your father's mother).Nieces: every female descendant of your
brothers and sisters, no matter how low her level is (this count 2 out
of 7). This completes the list of women prohibited because of blood
relationship.
Now we come to those prohibited because of milk relationship (breastfeeding), there is a basic hadith here:
Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters,
your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your
brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who
nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers, and your
step-daughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom
you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin
upon you. And [also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from
your [own] loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters
simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is
ever Forgiving and Merciful.
Allah prohibited 14 classes of women, 7 due to blood relationship, and 7 for others.
Those because of blood relationship are:
Mothers: every female ancestor for you no matter how high her level
is (note that she might on the side of your father too, for example,
your father's mother).Daughters: every female descendant of you no
matter how low her level is (again, note that she might be on the side
of your son, for example, your son's daughter).Sisters: every female
that share you your father or mather (or both of them).Aunts:
bothSisters of every male ancestor for you (even on the side of your
mother, such as the sister of your mother's father), andSisters of every
female ancestor for you (even on the side of your father, such as the
sister of your father's mother).Nieces: every female descendant of your
brothers and sisters, no matter how low her level is (this count 2 out
of 7). This completes the list of women prohibited because of blood
relationship.
Now we come to those prohibited because of milk relationship (breastfeeding), there is a basic hadith here:
🔴 Selection of Spouses or Marriage:
It is not important for me right now. But I am studying for educational purposes.
As we are fear of Allaah Swt and listening to the Allah Swt
commands. We are Muslim. As I know, Haram relationship (e.g: girlfriend
) is not allowed in islam.
When get mature around average 25 years or more. Everyone get married. This is the only way. Halal way and pleased to Allah.
Quote from Qur’an about Marriage:
"Marry the single people from among you and the righteous slaves
and slave-girls. If you are poor, Allah (SwT) will make you rich through
His favour; and Allah (SwT) is Bountiful, All-Knowing." (Surah 24,
Verse 32)
"And let those who cannot find someone to marry maintain chastity
until Allah (SwT) makes them rich through His favours ..."(Surah 24,
Verse 33)
"... and besides these, it is lawful for you to marry other women
if you pay them their dowry, maintain chastity and do not commit
indecency. So those (women) whom you marry for an appointed time, you
must give them their agreed upon dowries. There is no harm if you reach
an understanding among yourselves about the dowry, Allah (SwT) is
All-Knowing and All-Wise." (Surah 4, Verse 24)
"They (your wives) are a clothing (covering) for you and you too are a clothing (covering) for them." (Surah 2, Verse187)
"And one of His signs is that He has created for you, spouses from
amongst yourselves so that you might take comfort in them and He has
placed between you, love and mercy. In this there is surely evidence (of
the truth) for the people who carefully think." (Surah 30, Verse 21)
O' mankind! Have consciousness of your Lord who has created you
from a single soul. From it He created your spouse and through them He
populated the land with many men and women. Have spiritual awareness of
the One by whose Name you swear to settle your differences and have
respect for the wombs that bore you. Without doubt, Allah (SwT) keeps
watch over you all."(Surah 4, Verse 1)
Before anyone marriage proposal should be look at the below things
(A. Religiousness, B. Good Nature, C. Compatibility, D. Decent Family
& E. Good Physical and Mental Health). which is very important.
As we are Bangladeshi. Our identity is Muslim Bangladeshi. All
married arrangements has to be with Sunni Muslim person and for
compatability purpose with Bangladeshi. Because Bangladeshi Muslim
(Sunni) plus Same country, it is very easy and important find out about
their ancient and the casts, and same language, same culture,
simmiler food etc, 100% compatibility. As you seen everyone in family
& cusin married with Muslim + Bangladeshi.
It is prohibited to marry non Muslim due to religious issues.
Leaving religious or going future generations wrong path. If anyone
marriage non Muslim it is wrong path. We are alhamdulillah Muslim and
believe that this world is temporary. No one shouldn't choose wrong
path.
Most of the times weeding proposal happend by recommendation and
arrange marriage. Example: When your Fufu or Mama or Anty or cusin
getting married. Everyone look for (A to E). Plus , As we are
Bangladeshi: We look for decent family, ansister, casts, classes and
what types of class origin, is it Talikdhar or lowest class. It is very
important to know all information very carefully for future generations
etc. Also maintain maintain the current family dignity. Normally before
marriage proposal find out the other side information about their
family information and people's. how is their family and their
Ansister from. What is the cast. Which class peoples in our society. It
has to be match with our families. From example; after marriage proposal
came we sent the person to the their village and get their information
about their ansister and their cast or their classess or their current
personality or dignity of the society etc.
Different Wealthy class:
Bangladesh have like three classes compare to their wealth and
their establishment: (1) upper or rich family. (2) Middle class (3)
lower or poor class.
Different castes:
Bangladesh people have different cast or the job they are doing in the familiarity on the society.
Normally marriage happend casts by casts within the Muslim in Bangladesh.
(1). Choudhury or Khan surname ( with title): They are like upper
or middle or normal class peoples Choudhury used to have more lands or
called Landlords during the British ruling time in Bangladesh.
British people was given this title.
Khan Surname people they are like upper or normal or middle class
peoples. Khan is the very popular Muslim title which was copied from
England. They are like normal people like talukdar (without title). They
were well established respected on the society.
(2). Talukdar (without title) : They are well established
respected normal or middle and upper classes mix peoples on the society.
Without any specific Surname. Like Mum and Dad families ansister are
from Talikdhar Middle class. Around mejority peoples are from
Bangladesh are Talukdar.
They were well established respected on the society.
(3). Maimal or Fisher man: They were poor and uneducated and not
respected lower class people's on the society. They have chosen this
profession on the society. They used to catch fish from the other
people's house ponds or also catching and selling the fish and
living with their livelihood. They are not respected people on the
society. By nature they are rude and rough kinds of people.
(4). Gulam or Khiran: They were very poor and uneducated lowest
class and not respected people's on the society. They used to work on
the society for sloughter animal.After that they used to collect the
animal lather and sell it. That's the way they used live or it was
their livelihood. But By nature they are rude and rough kinds of people.
Mathor: They were very poor and uneducated and lowest class and not
respected people's on the society. They used to work on the society as
a toilet tank cleaning.That's the way they used live or it was their
livelihood. By nature they are rude and rough kinds of people.
Kulli or Mali: They were very poor and uneducated and lowest class
not respected people's on the society.They used to work on the forest
or tea garden or mountain area. They were not Muslim practice religious
people. Even in Bangladesh they eat pig or drink alcohol.That's the way
they used live or it was their livelihood. By nature they are rude and
rough kinds of people.
D. Decent Family
The Messenger of Allah (S) has given great emphasis on taking into
consideration a good family background when we intend to marry.
He said, “Marry in the lap of a decent family, since the semen and the genes have effect.” 9
The Holy Prophet (S) also said, “Look very carefully and minutely
as to where you are placing your child because genes and hereditary
qualities are transferred in a concealed and unintentional way and have
their effect.”.
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